Monday, October 07, 2024 - A woman dumped her groom-to-be and is now married to her maid of honour and she says it was the best decision she’s ever made.
Kayla Doody, 29, from Florida, got engaged to Erika, 36,
just six months after ending things with her groom-to-be and shortly after
Erika divorced her husband.
The Sun reports that she explained that, growing up in
Houston, Texas, she was bullied at school because of her appearance and quiet,
quirky personality.
Kayla said, "I never felt like I fitted in. While I
dated boys and even kissed a few girls to try to get attention from boys, none
of it was serious. My self-esteem was so low that I didn’t think I was good
enough to be loved by anyone.
"I met Harry (not real name) in September 2013, aged
18, when I started university in Houston. Like me, he was shy and quiet. For
years, we were friends, hanging around with the same group, but over time we
grew closer, and in 2018 we became a couple.
"I felt settled and comfortable, but I knew in my heart
I wasn’t madly in love with Harry. It felt more like companionship than what my
friends had – they were so passionate about their partners. I didn’t feel
jealous, though, as I still had low self-worth and I was just grateful for what
I had – a man who loved me, even if I didn’t feel quite the same way about him.
"Working as a personal trainer in December 2021, I
became friends with a client, Dan (not his real name), and in November 2022 met
his wife Erika.
"Within months, Erika and I were best friends,
messaging daily and hanging out as a foursome with our partners.
"In February 2023, I was out hiking with Harry when he
proposed to me, dropping to one knee at the top of a rocky mountain and
presenting me with a ring.
"It was a surreal and confusing moment. I cared for
Harry and I’d always wanted to be a bride, to have a special day where everyone
could see that I had been chosen. But, at the same time, I felt stuck, like
Harry was my only option. I was smiling as I said ‘yes’, but inside I felt
trapped, as if I was just making the best of things.
"Erika was so happy for me, and revealed she’d helped
Harry plan the proposal. I asked her to be my maid of honour and she agreed.
"In late August, Erika and I were driving to my family
home for a party, when she confessed to me that she’d kissed a woman. She’d
realized she was gay and wanted a divorce from Dan. My head was spinning. I was
immediately jealous of this other woman, and suddenly realised I had feelings
for Erika. I tried to push those feelings away.
"At the end of September, I nervously drove to Erika’s
house. Dan was away with work for several months, and I just knew something was
about to happen. As we sat on the sofa watching a movie, Erika kissed me. It
felt magical. I didn’t feel guilty about Harry or Dan, all I could think about
was Erika.
"We slept together for the first time a week later, and
I knew she was The One – and that I couldn’t possibly marry Harry in three
weeks’ time.
"My heart was thumping. When I confessed I was in love
with Erika and we wanted to be together, Harry was stunned and angry, but also
appeared deflated, as if he knew there was no point trying to salvage our
relationship. I hated hurting him, but walking away, my biggest emotion was
relief.
"We haven’t spoken since that final conversation. I
sent a short text to guests saying the wedding was cancelled, and thankfully,
no one asked any questions.
"I told my mom in person that the wedding was off, and
she was so supportive – she told me to follow my heart and helped me cancel the
venue and suppliers.
" The date for my wedding came and went, and I felt
relieved I hadn’t gone through with it. Now I was experiencing true love with
Erika, I knew I should never have settled for companionship.
“When Dan returned from his extended work trip in November,
Erika told him that we were together. He was devastated, but agreed to the
divorce.”
Erika recounted meeting Dan at a young age and being married
to him for years only to realise she loved Kayla when they met.
Erika said: “I met Dan at university, aged 22. Kind and
handsome, he proposed in April 2011, we got married in December 2012, and for
years were happy together.
"But by 2021, when I first met Kayla, we were already
drifting apart. Kayla was bubbly and friendly and, at first, I just wanted to
be friends.
"But by the time Harry asked for my help with his proposal in January 2023, I’d developed a serious crush on her. My jealousy grew as I helped plan her wedding. When Kayla tried on her dress, she looked so beautiful I had to control my face, worried she would see how I really felt.
“Then, that August, I got very drunk and kissed a woman. It
felt like I was meeting myself for the first time. I knew I was gay and my
marriage had to end. I was so nervous telling Kayla, but after that, the spark
between us was undeniable.”
Kayla said: “Once she told Harry and cancelled their
wedding, and I told Dan, I felt like I could breathe again. I never wanted to
hurt Dan, but I couldn’t live a lie. Two months later, we were divorced.”
In January, with her divorce complete, Erika proposed and
Kayla said “yes”.
“I meant it with all my heart. We tied the knot in April at
an intimate wedding venue filled with flowers, in front of 60 of our family and
friends,” Kayla said. "Exchanging vows, I knew I was marrying my soulmate.
I had no regrets, we were meant to be.
“We now live in Florida and are blissfully happy and
planning to have IVF and start a family.”
Kayla said she has started writing a memoir about her
journey.
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